Hello (Annyong Haseyo ), this is my 2Nd post on managing anger and listening skills. After attending the tutorial on managing anger, I get to know more on how to recognize the emotions or feeling that fuel anger. Some common feelings or emotions that fuel anger are jealousy, frustration and disappointment. I never know that loneliness can also fuel anger too. Under the COW Behavioural Responses to Anger, I the type of person that will outburst but it only happened when I'm really really anger with that person. One example is my friend broke his promise and I was very anger with him. When I was secondary 4, I had a date with my friend. He asked me to accompany him to an autograph session, the F.I.R ( a band from Taiwan). At that time both of us love F.I.R very much, as their songs is nice. Hence I agree to go with him. However, on that day when I was about to go to the mrt station to meet him, I received his calls. He told me that he was very tired and do not feel like go. Upon hearing this disappointing news, I was so angry and I got outburst and scolded him. In the 1st place, he was the one who ask me to accompany him and in the end he was also the one who said do not want to go. If he gave me a better reason why he do not want to go or if he had told me earlier, maybe I will not be so angry. In the end, I went to the autograph session at WESTMALL shopping mall with my mother. I went to queue up alone and my mother went shopping. After queue up for 3hours, I finally got the CD signed and also got shake hand with him. So elated that I did not wash my hand for that whole day, LOL. In the end, of course I got forgive my friend as I not those type of petty girls. Haha. I think I should have manage my anger by controlling my behavioural. Such as try to calm myself down by taking a deep breathing or try to understand the situation first before outburst at him. Recently, I got frustrated because of stress as common test is coming soon and I haven't start my revision. OMG.

In the past, I thought I was a good listener. However after attending the tutorial on listening skills, I found out that I'm actually an average listener. Under the ineffective listening styles, I'm the type that are either selective listening ( pay attention to the part of the conversation that interest me) or pretending (pretend to be paying attention). Mostly if my friends talk to me about their family or gossiping about who, I will be very interested, will pay full attention. However, if that day I'm tired and their story is boring, I will be pretending to be listening. Haha. I know like that is very impolite, but it better than you walk away or tell them to keep quiet. Through listening, I hope to accomplish a sense of belonging. At home, I think my mother is a superior listener. Whenever, I feel like finding a person to talk to, the 1st person I will approach is my mother. Mostly of the time I love talk to her about my friends, share with her the new Korean language that I have learn in Korean club, the new shopping mall I been to and many more. She will pay attention when I was talking and will not interrupt. However she is very absent minded, this minutes you tell her this words, then a few minutes later you asked her again, she might have already forget about it. Haha.

Cheers. Bye ( Annyonghi kyeseyo) [^0^]